What should I do about my family?
Question by I’m in love with my man: What should I do about my family?
I came home from a family xmas party. I left early from my mom’s house. My step dad is bi polar and is addicted to pain meds and never interacts with the family get togethers, my sister is a lesbian (i don’t care I love her anyway) but her girlfriend is annoying, both my brothers are henpecked and my sister inlaws run their households, when they come to my Mom’s for a get together they never help and the one sister in law is just obnoxicous and disresptful to my Mom and my brother says nothing. I was okay with my other sister and brother inlaw til tonight when my son and nephew got into a fight (which they do everytime they are together) my nephew went and told his dad his side of the story and my DUMB AZZ brother inlaw when out and told my son he was going to kick his azz if he didn’t leave his son alone. My son did not come in and say anything. So I heard from another family member my son was cussing at his uncle. I went out there and found out the above info and got pissed and told everyone good bye and started to leave when my sister came up and said we needed to talk and I said NO I have enough stress in my life I don’t need anyone threating my son and she said her husband said something different, I said I’m done and she walked away and I got in my car and left. Another nephew which witnessed the whole thing said it was not my sons fault but he did cuss at his uncle. I don’t condone the behavior of my son, but I don’t understand why a grown person would threaten a child especially when it is a family member. So the question is I want to tell my Mom that family get togethers are a joke and no one wants to be there and she needs to give up the holiday get togethers and quit forcing people to be where they don’t want to be. My Mom lays a guilt trip on everyone and they just do whatever just to please her. I am tired of it and want to tell her so, do you think I should or just suck it up and deal with it?
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Answer by wildkyle321
kill them
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If its annoying you this much that your resulting to asking the public i think you should tell your mum how you feel. Even though you might not feel comfortable, at least you will be happy
well maybe you should let your mom know how you feel about your family especially on your dumb ass brother in law, it is not your fault so maybe your mom can talk to you bro in law and and fix things up..
you arn’t required to go to the family things your requested. sometimes you have to stay away to stay together. that’s a simple answer but it works. good luck
omg I feel so stressed out just reading your post!!! I think my bp must be to the moon! lol Gees, this is my family too. We moved away and quit going to the holidays. Its so much more peaceful. I didnt want my children to learn that drama and fighting is normal.
I think though you should of punished your son. THere is no excuse for him to speak that way. I have done this too. I have told my children I cant control their crazy realatives but I can and will control them. And they will never speak disrespectfully. i think you could use this to teach him how he should react. He is going to have a boss someday or some other jerk in his life and need the ammo for how to deal with it in good ways. (like he could of walked out and found you, he could of gone to the car, etc)
Anyway the other adult may of overreacted or been a little emotionally charged by something that was said or done. I believe your right he shouldnt of threatened your son…but was your son afraid?
Leaving was the best choice for you at the time cause it would of gotten even more charged and other things could of happened or been said.
Why dont you just plan your own private family party and avoid theirs. good luck hon