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A heart-breaking situation with a girl.?

Question by Ben: A heart-breaking situation with a girl.?
I’ve known this girl for several years, ever since childhood because her family belongs to an ethnic community my family is in and that her parents are my parent’s best friends. But, we go to different schools in different towns (a ten minute drive though!).

I once admitted that I liked her in middle school to a friend of hers in my school (they were in the same swim team) and she told the girl I liked. I was approached of the topic from her, but I immediately made an excuse and every time she asked again, I put it off.

Several years later, in high school, I still like her, but we see each other only once a month and during holidays/breaks/vacations, several times. I would say the feeling is mutual, she is always happy to see me and always breath-taking to me. Frankly, I’m out of shape and started to exercise about six months ago. I definitely improved my look and strength but not enough for great impression

However, during the New Years we got really close and she slept on my shoulder during a car ride back home from a party. During that break, I practically saw her everyday, but now that it’s over, the only thing that connects us is Facebook. I intensified my training and with motivation set a goal to get ready to ask her out on her birthday, in about two months time.

But, I couldn’t help noticing seemingly friendly, even romantic-teasing comments on Facebook, of another boy in her school who is insanely in love with her. He is almost the polar opposite of me, with my limited knowledge of him. He isn’t in our ethnic background, he openly says that he likes her, even loves her, and from the looks somewhat athletic. I have seen her deny him for some time but her friends are teasing her, and encouraging him, a sign that I will lose my chance.

But just today, it seem she commented back with a warm response to a clever ( I have to admit!) “I like you” statement. It practically evolved into a 44 comment Facebook page with her friends teasing the both of them. After seeing that, my heart shook as I knew. My motivation for everything is crumbling.

I really love this girl, to the point where I could let her go just so she can be happy even if I am left in pain. I do not lust her, but I enjoy her company, her scent, her looks, her personality. I am very deep emotional pain, and I have never listened to soo many Emo songs (We the Kings, All-American Rejects, Boys Like Girls, Thirty Seconds to Mars). But I don’t want to put her into an awkward situation when I confess or even ruin our friendship. Her relationship isn’t official, but I sense it leaning towards him.

Please help! I do not know what to do and I think I may come with a severe depression if I can’t pick myself off my feet. I’ve tried to seek relationships with other girls, but only she can catch my breath.
But how should I confess to her?

Best answer:

Answer by Ashley N
Aww that is very sweet, I definitely think you need to tell her before its too late. You seem great for her, and i love how much you care. Very sweet. Go for it!! And don’t hold back, tell her everything, and NOT of facebook, to her face.

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