Q&A: What should I do? I have great relationship which last for 4 years. We are not only lovers but also friends…
Question by Nelli: What should I do? I have great relationship which last for 4 years. We are not only lovers but also friends…
We do everything together. We have common hobbies, we both love sport and we both love party as well. We both do housework together (we cook, clean together) we have common friends…We never fight, but we always respect each other. He is my best friend.
The only differences between us is that he loves travelling around world, while I like it but I don’t live for that. Each year he must go out from Europe for a month. Usually I go with him (we were in Egypt, Turkey, Iran, Bosnia and Herzegovina…), but not this year (2007). I understand that for him traveling is getting away from everyday routne and that he needs that. But January I will loose my job and I can’t afford to travel. And even if I get a job soon I can’t get days for holiday so soon (in February). I think he should stay home this year for me, he says he could stay but he will be depressed. Some of my friends say I should give him freedom, others say NO. He will do this all the time, also when I’ll have kids…
We have together an amount of money for houshold and for a house, but for our pleasures and fun we have seperated money. A trip to Burma is not cheap but it is quite expensive, so he cannot pay for me as well. He could borrow money and I could pay him back but that is not finantionally wise. My opinion is he could wait a year…But…
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I think your friends are right, he needs his time. If you pressure him to stay he might resent that. it sounds like you both have a lot of respect for one another and that is one reason you are still together and going strong. It would be ideal if you could travel with him and ponder your new career path, perhaps he could pay? I don’t know your money situation with him, but time apart can be good too, it doesn’t have to be a negative thing.
You sound like you have a great relationship with this guy – do you think he would agree to pay for you to go with him and have a shorter holiday? Or maybe hang on until you sort your work situation out and you can both go later in the year? I think you should listen to your friends, if you love, respect and trust each other (and it sounds like you do) then let him go – he will think so much of you for it and also if you guilt trip him into staying home he may get resentful of you.
Look, he is living his life his way, you are just an easy F*ck for him. Live your own life, get some girlfriends and go on holiday with them, get a life and stop relying on him, plenty of blokes out there sado. He sounds like a tosser also, what part of europe you from?