How long can I see my child?
Question by annina_888: How long can I see my child?
My 14 months old son lives with my ex-partner (she) about 800 km from my place in a different country. As a teacher I have 17 weeks holidays per year. Is it appropriate that I want to see my son during all of my holiday (my ex partner still has him for the 38 weeks…) ? I usually spend my holiday in the Czech Republic. My ex is not working at the moment.
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Answer by plucknhammer
Hi,
I think its perfectly natural to want to catch up on lost time with your wee boy. It would be better for him i feel to see daddy at home in a normal envireoment rather than a 6 week holiday. How about taking a week away instead of the 6? (if you normally go during the summer break)
Your ex wife may feel it is too long seeing as he is so young. If thats the case the best thing to do is make sure your ex can see you appreciate and are listening to her concerns and do all you can to reassure her that you will take good care of him.
Im not sure of the relevance of your partner not working… Whether she is working or not she will be glad to get a break from your young un. The only reasonable excuse i can see for her saying no is that she herself has booked a holiday for the kiddo or if his birthday falls during holiday time. In that case i would take it turn about to enjoy his b’day with him, perhaps at some point even both you and your ex could find it in yourselves to organise a party for him together? Gosh…. im babbling! Sorry!!
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I think 17 weeks all at once is a little long for a child to be away from his mother but if you could take him spring/easter/whatever break, some of Christmas break and most of the summer, i think that would be good. When he hits about 8, i think you could take him for the whole summer minus about 2 weeks (your ex will want some summer time w/ him)
You’ve already asked this question.
No, it’s not appropriate for you to take away your 14yo son from his mother for 4 months, not even a month. 4 months would even be too much for a 6yo. Your son is not ready to be separated from his mother that long. He’s just a baby and still needs that time with the primary caregiver.
If you want to spend more time with your son, you should go to him. Consider even moving if it’s that important to you. Babies are meant to be with their mothers.
MY ADVISE TO YOU IS THIS, I DON;T KNOW ABOUT YOUR PLACE THEIR BUT HERE IN NIGERIA THERE IS LONG TIME HOLIDAY AND SHORT TIME HOLIDAY I THINK YOU SHOULD MAKE OUT TIME FOR YOURSELF DO YOU KNOW THAT IF A FAMILY IS NOT TOGETHER THAT IS THE CHILD LIFE IS ALSO NOT TOGETHER, SO MAKE OUT TIME FOR YOURSELF YOUR CHILD NEEDS YOU AND TIME TO TIME YOU SEND THINGS FOR YOUR CHILD HE MIGHT NEED TO BUY HIS OR HER TEXT BOOK AND PLEASE GO SEE YOUR CHILD SO HE OR SHE WILL NOT THINK BAD ABOUT YOU.
By right that is her child.