Gold-digging niece help ?
Question by : Gold-digging niece help ?
Me and my partner live in the UK
His family lives in Albania (a poor country)
One of his neice’s who is 17 is spoilt rotten
she wants everything, and my boyfriend keeps buying her everything.
at the minute were struggling with money, moving house, going to albania,
a wedding and a holiday to save up for.
and shes still asking for things, expensive things.
and no matter how much i stress the point to him that she gets more than me
and if you keep buying she’ll keep asking
and that we have no money at the minute he just keeps buying her things.
and she won’t stop either. i dont want us to get into worse money problems.
help ??
oh come on they are blood related !! he is not having an affair with his neice. its just his favourite niece because she is a really nice girl, but still she wants too much and i wanted to know how to convince him how to stop
Best answer:
Answer by Dave87gn
sounds like you know exactly where you stand with your partner…the niece comes first and you come last
so, decide if you want to keep that arrangement
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Sounds to me like you have a much bigger problem than money. The obvious question here is “Why is he buying HER things?”, especially when money is tight. To an outside observer, the conclusion (fair or unfair) is that he may be having an affair with her, or that he may be buying her things to keep her quiet. Perhaps he had an affair (sexually) with her and now she is milking him dry for her silence. You said she is 17, he may be guilty of sexually abusing a child (in the eyes of the law).
To me, there is a much MUCH bigger problem than him spending all your money.
But keep this in mind, I’m an outside observer. What I say is SPECULATION, not FACT. Don’t go accusing him, but try to figure out what is behind all this.