Sick of long distance boyfriend but can’t end it either. Help me.?
Question by Ladyfame: Sick of long distance boyfriend but can’t end it either. Help me.?
We live in different countries in Europe. He has flown down to meet me three time from September. We met last week. I love him, he’s lovely. Sometimes I think I could end up with him. He’s five years older than me (Im 19 and he’s 24)
Sometimes he gets me really annoyed though. He does compare his country to mine all the time- ‘Oh but in —, this is better’. It annoyes the hell out of me and I was close to ending it with him because after he left after one trip, I felt all hurt and annoyed that nothing I have is good enough.
There is another thing that annoys the hell out of me. My parents live in Asia at the moment and I’m there for the holidays. We can’t really skype like we used to because he’s in the mountains and the internet connection is rubbish. Anyway, we call each other up and its annoying that he’ll always say I have to go now we have to ski or I have to go for dinner with my parents.
I mean we were to talk on skype last night and he texted me that he had to go for dinner and that we should talk tomorrow? So he couldnt call me up for a minute to tell me? I hate him sometimes.
The thing is I think he’s more in love with me than I am with him. He’s very attached to me and wants to get amrried and all and I love him as well. I can’t imagine not being with him but I feel I have changed as a person since we have been going out (a year now) Im boring, I don’t go anywhere or do anything. I miss him so much when I am back in uni and Im sick of this. I used to be a very popular girl back in school and I enjoyed life.
I’m confused. I can’t live without him but I’m also a bit sick of our relationship situation. I suspect he’s a little childish. I mean how can you keep going out with your parents!!! All the time. Oh dear god.
Help!
Best answer:
Answer by the brat
why don’t you move where he lives or he moves where you live. i don’t understand what the hold up is in your relationship. i think i would be looking around for some one else that lives IN YOUR AREA.. it doesn’t sound like he’s going to commit to you—so move on.
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First if you marry,you’ll live in his country because it does not sound like he has ANY intention to move to yours.
Next it takes MORE than love to make a relationship work.You need to move near him or him near you and date a yr so you can see one another’s “true selves”.Otherwise you may have the fairy tale wedding and wake up with a monster in a foreign country.He is 24 and you are a teenager hon.He sees you as “easy to manipulate”.You are angry at him and have you told him this?Have you talked about what you want?Where you want to live?
It is not childish to go out with your parents hon, I mean he could be out screwing some other girl duh.My parents are both dead and I’d trade a week of my life to spend one day with them again.
You are not as mature as you think.When you can learn to stop getting mad and learn to see and understand things from HIS point of view you might learn something then,until you do, you will just keep “getting annoyed” every time someone has a different opinion than yours or you do not get your way.