Can you never reconcile with your family at a mature age?
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My family suck. For 16 whole years of my life, I have had to live with these troubled fools. I often get into fights and stuff and feel like I do not belong to them and I wish I didn’t. I especially have a disliking to my father. He is impolite and short tempered. He often mocks people’s voices incomprehensibly and is such a liar. I just had to be his son…
My mother lacks some Western knowledge, strongly rooted to hers and my father’s home country which they treat as a god. I understand because that was where they were born but I don’t care about it. It’s a measly, third world country and they have their rose coloured glasses firmly on. Her cooking ranges from satisfactory to poor, where I much rather prefer commercial food. My father’s no better, he can only cook pasta. Not even poor people would want to eat their grub. They weren’t meant to be together. They fight often and aggressively, to a point when my father was attacking my mother. On Boxing Day. In front of my siblings and I.
My older brother is selfish. He sometimes refuses to let me use our crappy laptop in his room just like how there is a TV in my room. That isn’t fair. My younger brother and sister are both dislikable, immature wastes of spaces.
I am really fed up living in this hellhole. I don’t care about my family. They make insipid food, not get enough clothes and fight like there’s no tomorrow at times. When I am old enough, I’m moving the hell away from them. I hope to never reconcile with them ever again, not even in important holidays like Christmas, because I do not belong in this family. We don’t share in common so what is the point. I prefer it when I’m not with them so that proves it further. I may even fake my death to give me more freedom and start anew in my life (though I may have to fake my history).
I am considering in moving to another country. The UK here is said to be Europe’s worst country, second only to Ireland which is near. I may move to France as it is said to be Europe’s best country (and I would want me good welfare) and I know a little French but it is quite near Britain. I may even leave Europe and probably move (or hopefully visit) to another continent such as the Americas, Asia, or Oceania. Africa has too many poor nations, thus having an affect on welfare.
I do not care if my family have been supporting me, I just have a natural dislike to them. I shouldn’t be a member of them and I am better off never seeing them again in the future.
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Answer by Harry
I can totally relate with your situation. You are not alone, as this kind of thing goes on in a lot of families. I felt and do still feel the same way about my so called relatives. I felt like a lamb growing up in a den of wolves, Literally! You did not mention your age, but my way out of that hell hole was to get married. I tried through the years to go visit and get along, to no avail. They were the same, nothing had changed. And I suspect they never will. My Being an adult did not change any behavior towards me. That’s just how they were and that’s how they are going to remain. I have not been around my so called family for over 10 years. I refuse to be put upon, used, verbally abused,ignored, and have all my other siblings to be treated good and me to be treated like an outcast. If you are 18, or when you turn of age, just get out. You don’t have to fake any death in order to keep them away. When your on your own, if they contact you in anyway, tell them OFF. I made sure to tell just 1 sibling that I didn’t want anything to do with any of them, and believe me, it got back to everyone of them. They don’t have any contact with me, nor I them. They cannot force you to associate with them. Good Luck, I hope this helps. God Bless!!
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